December 18, 2002
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First off I would like to say thank you for everyone's kind words regarding my BIL (brother-in-law) and SIL (sister-in-law) who is my husband's sister. It appears that he is doing well. They will be making a determination within the next couple of days whether he will need to stay for an additional period of 14 to 20 days. When he went in he had to sign a paper that indicated if they made that determination it would be "involuntary" so he has to stay whether he wants to or not. We are all very relieved that he is getting the help that he actually needs. He has said that he is doing this for himself and his family so we believe that is a GREAT sign and he is finally getting the help he needs.
We never realize as parents, when our children are young, the impact we have on their future. What children are told (whether true or not) carry a great deal of impact on them as they mature into adults. That is what has a lot to do with what he is going through now, it has finally caught up with him as a 41 year old man. His parents still do not know that he is in the hospital and he has no intention of letting them know. But the kicker here is that they haven't even called to find out why they haven't heard from him....
I believe that everyone here on Xanga has a good heart otherwise we would not be here. But I feel going through what I am right now I need to say this. Please remember, as parents of young children that what is said and done today will stay with them for the rest of their lives, the good, the bad and the ugly. And I don't think anyone wants to see the situation that my BIL is going through happen to their child. Enough of me being on my soapbox today.
Sorry I wasn't able to attend the Xanga Christmas Party yesterday. My SIL and I went to Palo Alto to try to save his job! Thankfully we were able to speak with the Human Resource Manager and provide all the necessary documents for them to place him on medical leave. The family doctor that would not sign the required paperwork to keep him out of work we think has realized what he did and finally signed it. (Probably because he is worried about a law suit.) So as of yesterday he is now on medical leave until he is able to return to work. I think that will be a big load off of his mind as well as my SIL, we did not get home until late afternoon. But after reading sites this morning it appears that everyone had a good time. I was pleasantly surprised to see on AbbyNormals site that I came in second on the cutest baby! What a hoot.
I'm working from home today so I better get to work
. Everyone have a wonderful day and a better tomorrow.
Comments (11)
Will continue to send good thoughts your way. Congrats on being the runner up in the baby contest. I need to go check out the results.
Drop by and pick up your graphic for being one of the cutest babies! Thanks for sending a picture in and congrats on being a winner!
I'm trying to prevent my daughter from going through that situation at some point in her life.
-M
Congrats... You sure were a cute baby!!!
((((((Susie )))))) Sweety!!!
Was just cruising by. Great site.
congrats on the Baby cutest. it was a good party we all had lots of fun. Hope thing get better for you and your famliy.
I hope coming in second put a smile on your face during these difficult times.
Since you missed the parties, drop by and take a look of quotes I posted from all the Xanga parties Tuesday. It was .. interesting
Congrats on the baby contest .. thats great! Hope your feeling well and all is getting better with your BIL. ((Hugs))
(((((((((((((((Susie)))))))))))) Yep.. I knew people flocked to Abbys site to see those pictures.. and then on to the parties too. *wink* LOL! Funny
I'm sorry you missed them... I hope you make the next one though.
Thanks for all the funny emails you send. You have no idea how I laugh while sitting here at this desk!
The trouble with blaming parents for our adult problems is that we disempower ourselves to deal with our issues. There is a lot more involved in the creation of a mind and personality than just what parents say to children. Certainly early programming is important, but there have been enough wonderfully sane and productive people coming out of "bad" backgrounds and wildly destructive kids from loving homes, to illustrate my point. The important thing is that this man is now taking responsibility for his own life, and has found some help in empowering himself to do it. We all have that power to transcend our early programming, if we will acknowledge it and take the responsibility.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!!!!
Tina
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